Thoughts For The Holiday Season: 2025 edition

The holiday season often arrives with a flurry of expectations, sparkling lights, gatherings with family and friends, and traditions that seem set in stone. For many, these images evoke warmth and connection. But for others, the holidays can feel overwhelming, lonely, or even painful. Life changes, grief, stress, and personal circumstances can make this time of year complicated.

Here’s the truth: there is no single “right” way to experience the holidays. Meaning is deeply personal, and it’s okay, even healthy, to create a version of the season that feels authentic to you.

Does Meaning Matter?

When we talk about “making meaning,” we’re talking about intentionally shaping experiences that align with your values and emotional needs. Meaning doesn’t have to come from elaborate traditions or expensive gifts. It can be found in small, mindful choices that bring comfort, connection, or peace.

1. Redefine What “Meaning” Means for You

Start by asking:

What matters most to me right now?

Your answer might surprise you. Maybe it’s rest after a stressful year. Maybe it’s connection with one or two trusted people. Maybe it’s creativity, spirituality, or simply quiet. Give yourself permission to choose what feels nourishing, not what social media or family traditions dictate.

Quick Tip: Write down three words that describe what you want your holiday season to feel like. Examples: peaceful, connected, simple. Use these words as a guide when making decisions.

2. Honour Your Emotional Landscape

If you’re grieving, stressed, or navigating a major life change, acknowledge those feelings. You don’t have to force cheerfulness or pretend everything is fine. Sometimes, meaning comes from allowing space for honesty and self-compassion.

Try This:

• Journal about what emotions come up when you think about the holidays.

• Ask yourself: What do I need most right now? Comfort, support, solitude?

3. Create Intentional Moments

Small rituals can bring grounding and comfort. They don’t have to be elaborate or expensive.

• Light a candle for someone you miss.

• Write a gratitude list for the year.

• Take a quiet walk and notice the season’s beauty.

  
  

These moments can become anchors; reminders that meaning often lives in simplicity.

4. Set Boundaries Around Expectations

The holidays can come with pressure: attend every event, buy every gift, keep every tradition. But it’s okay to say no to gatherings or activities that drain you. Protect your energy and prioritize what feels supportive.

Boundary Examples:

• “I appreciate the invitation, but I need a quiet evening at home.”

• “I’m focusing on meaningful gifts this year, so I’ll be keeping things simple.”

Boundaries aren’t selfish-they’re essential for well-being!

5. Seek Connection in Your Own Way

Connection doesn’t have to mean big parties or family reunions. It could be:

• A heartfelt phone call with a friend.

• Volunteering for a cause you care about.

• Spending time with a pet or in nature.

  
  

If you’re feeling isolated, consider reaching out; even a short message can create a sense of belonging.

6. Remember: Meaning Is Flexible

Your holiday season can be simple, unconventional, or even quiet. What matters is that it reflects your values and supports your well-being. Traditions can evolve. New rituals can emerge. And that’s okay.

A reminder from Clarity:

If this season feels heavy, consider reaching out for support. Therapy can help you navigate emotions, set boundaries, and create a plan that feels right for you. You deserve a holiday season that honours your needs, there is no right or wrong way-rather deciding works for you. We can help navigate the path forward.